- Why do you go to therapy?
I knew it why people did go to therapy though what I didn't understand was why my aunt, a very tall, blond, blue eyed beautiful lady who had been a nun (yes, a proper catholic nun) and left the convent to marry my uncle a Japanese who had migrated to Brazil, later became a nurse, someone who spoken so many different languages and and helped my mum to raise me - and who in my opinion was one of the most beautiful and intelligent woman I knew needed to go to therapy?
Her answer was simply;
- Because I need a friend and these days no one has time to listen to others problems.
It took me over ten years to completely understand what she meant about 'These days no one has time to listen to each other'. Took me all this time to understand the importance of our 'Personal Time'. Now I know she was right. No one these days seem to have the 'time' - or seem to be bother - to listen to others. We are all so consumed by our own problems and issues and work load that less and less we are keen to give our time to others.
I am into a stage of my life where I am reviewing my time and trying very hard to administrate my time in the way I can distribute my time fairly between family, relatives, friends and myself and at the same time to not let work consume all my time.
A colleague of mine told me once; 'If you don't set up a time everyday to shut your lap top and switch off you blackberry you could stay working non stop for 24 hours and work will never end '. And she is right. You must have a time in the day where 'Enough is enough' and blackberry goes off, so does the lap top and then you switch yourself back ON again. The time in the day you look after yourself and the ones you love.
In these modern times it's so easy to get ourselves completely absorbed by work forgetting the real meaning of Life; the real meaning of why we go to work...most of all we end up forgetting that we are not islands and therefore we are not created to live isolated. We need to interact with people - and of course - we need to interact with those who we love and who love us.
More and more I realise I need to re-schedule my personal time by not let myself being one hundred percent consumed by work but actually go back to get closer to those I love. Recharge my soul with their love and help to boost their soul with some of my love too.
We got to find the time to those we love because charity isn't all about the act of giving our money away to charities but the act of giving our time. Give our time to our dedicated charities, give our time to our friends and loved ones to listen to them, to support them as we need (or will one day) to be listened by them.
A simple but so truthful say by Antoine de Saint Exupery says it all;
(from the Little Prince; "(...)You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed (. . . ) ")
